May 162012
 

The most common effects of stress on the emotional side can be an edgy relationships with family, friends, and coworkers. These situations can drain emotional energy and they can even lead to anxiety, feelings of emptiness, and depression. The physical symptoms of stress are weight loss or weight gain, headaches, ulcers, increased blood pressure and sleep disorders can also occur. People who get less than five hours of sleep twice a week or more are 300 percent more vulnerable to heart attacks.

So, what are the factors that contribute to workplace stress? You may be too busy to notice it but you could already experiencing work related stress, like too much work, isolation, extensive hours worked, toxic work environments, lack of autonomy, difficult relationships among coworkers and management, management bullying, harassment and lack of opportunities or motivation to advance or improve your skill level.

So, what are the factors that contribute to workplace stress? You may be too busy to notice it but you could already experiencing work related stress, like too much work, isolation, extensive hours worked, toxic work environments, lack of autonomy, difficult relationships among coworkers and management, management bullying, harassment and lack of opportunities or motivation to advance or improve your skill level.

Work related stress a broad array of stress disorder conditions:

1. Emotional strain – dissatisfaction, fatigue, tension, etc.

2. Psychological disorders – depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder

3. Maladaptive behaviors – aggression, substance abuse

Again, these conditions may lead to poor work performance, poor attendance, poor productivity or even injury. Work stress is also connected with various biological reactions that may lead ultimately to compromised health, such as cardiovascular disease, or in extreme cases, death.

Again, these conditions may lead to poor work performance, poor attendance, poor productivity or even injury. Work stress is also connected with various biological reactions that may lead ultimately to compromised health, such as cardiovascular disease, or in extreme cases, death.

Improve your stress management and your physical and emotional health will follow. The most important thing is that it can also make the difference between success or failure on the job. Your emotions can be contagious, and stress has an impact on the quality of your interactions with others. By managing your own stress, you will mitigate the affect of other people’s stress on you. The more you positively affect those around you, the lesser their stress will affect you.

Improve your stress management and your physical and emotional health will follow. The most important thing is that it can also make the difference between success or failure on the job. Your emotions can be contagious, and stress has an impact on the quality of your interactions with others. By managing your own stress, you will mitigate the affect of other people’s stress on you. The more you positively affect those around you, the lesser their stress will affect you.

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Feb 272012
 

Whether you are trying to jump-start your fitness routine or just trying to keep it on track, adding a few fresh ideas to you fitness bag of tricks can be very effective.

A simple way to remedy this is to find a partner with similar fitness goals to work out with.

Make sure you our also working out your “invisible" abdominal muscles when you are doing your abdominal workouts.

There are abdominal muscles underneath your six pack muscle that are responsible for keeping your tummy trim.

To properly work them out, use the vacuum routine. Pull in your belly button toward your spine and hold it in for about 10 minutes, while breathing normal. Do this about 5 times.

A good fitness tip for those of you looking for washboard abs to to work your transversus abdominals.

There are abdominal muscles underneath your six pack muscle that are responsible for keeping your tummy trim.

When you are working on your abdominal muscles do not work on them every day.

When you are working on your abdominal muscles do not work on them every day.

A good fitness tip for those of you looking for washboard abs to to work your transversus abdominals.

This is the muscle under your rectus abdominis (the six pack muscles). Strengthening your transversus is a great way to make your stomach flatter and get rid of that big old beer gut.

There are many different kinds of fitness activities for different kinds of people.

The powerful tips above may be all you need for the success you have been waiting for. It is not difficult to get going and be fit every day of your life when you have a bag of tricks filled with information that is truly effective. Knowing the right way to do it may be all you need.

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Feb 132012
 

Jewel of the Week: Zoisite

Zoisite was first discovered in Austria towards the end of the eighteenth century and was named after the mineral collector Freiherr Von Zois. Zoisite’s green color comes from the presence of chromium and vanadium and it forms in rough masses. Zoisite masses occasionally have Ruby scattered throughout the stone. Zoisite stimulates fertility and if Ruby is present it increases potency. Zoisite stimulates the crown chakra and the sacral (2nd) chakra, which is associated with fertility. Zoisite assists with decomposition of negativity and transforms the negative energy into positive energy fields, transforming destructive attitudes into constructive attitudes. Zoisite assists us with our creativity and helps us to realize our own ideas and desires.

Daily Jewel:

April is the month that gardens are being prepared for planting. In preparation for planting seeds and the growth of new seedlings, the gardener takes special care in his soil preparation. The gardener provides mulch to help retain moisture, composted yard and food waste and manure to fertilize and add essential nutrients to the soil.

The gardener knows that a healthy, fertile soil will provide high yields of crops, flowers and hardy trees. Poor soil provides undernourished, diseased plants that yield poorly. The gardener knows the importance of having fertile soil before planting the seeds for new growth.

What are you doing to provide fertile soil for the seeds of your ideas and dreams? Are you experiencing doubt and fear about planting your seeds of creativity or are you filled with joy and excitement? The energy of Zoisite will assist you in the process of turning your inner soil into fertile ground that is ready for planting.

Take your fears, doubts, negative thoughts and attitudes and send them into the ground for Mother Earth to compost and transform into fertilizer for your inner soil. Take some time to go out into your garden or on some grass, close your eyes and visualize yourself sending those fears, doubts and negativity into the ground. Feel this negative energy, this waste going out from the soles of your feet into the earth. The “souls” of our feet are our “soul” connection to the earth. Take a deep breath and feel the positive, nurturing energy rising back in through the soles of your feet from the Earth Mother. Take that wonderful, positive energy into your body to nourish your soil in preparation of planting your seeds of creativity.

Nature imitates herself: a grain thrown into good ground brings forth fruit: a principle thrown into a good mind brings forth fruit. -Blaise Pascal

Bio: I am The Soul Power Coach, mentor, speaker, trainer and author. I help entrepreneurs move out of self sabotage and limiting beliefs so that they can make more money and experience more fun, joy and freedom in their business and in their life. http://PurposeToPassionToProfits.com. This article, The Importance of Preparing the Soil has free reprint rights.

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Jul 282011
 

The ability to cope with extreme stress effectively will depend on the persons access to positive resources, innate abilities and awareness. Along with their individual nature, each person has their own strengths and personal challenges. Two people experiencing the same situation can have totally different reactions. Each individual must be thought of as a unique situation because one approach to recovering and coping with stress might not work with everyone. It is helpful to know some of the general concerns, considerations and approaches that can be used.

Extreme stress can arise from many situations, it doesn’t just happen during catastrophic or acutely traumatic events.

Extreme stress for family members could be the result of a home environment that is highly stressful. Remembering that people always have a choice on their behavior is one way to help yourself if your parent is the cause of your stress. Using honest and open communication is one the positive approaches to handling this situation. You could try to sit down with your parents and let them know how their behavior makes you feel. If you felt comfortable doing so, you could even suggest some form of counseling.

What is known about extremely stressful events and the ability to cope with them will vary among people and the nature of the event. The time it takes for a reasonable recovery will depend on the kind of trauma as well as the nature of any kind of loss that might have happened. A person’s experience with enduring stress will also play an important role, here, as well. Learning to cope and recover should take less time for a person who has been in highly stressful situations before and was able to handle them well. Because of this, the person will already know ways to cope with the high or extreme stress.

One serious situation that will require professional intervention is the involvement of a child in an extreme stress or trauma incident. Obviously a child is not capable of understanding what is happening within, and there is only the manifestation of the symptoms. There are a variety of symptoms that a child might exhibit in this kind of situation, such as aggressiveness, extreme withdrawal or physical symptoms of stress reactions. The child may need their parents involvement in helping to overcome the stress, depending on the individual situation.

The ways in which to deal with extreme stress in children, teens and adults can be very different. Professional treatment may be the best route for any of the three categories and especially for young children. Additionally, adults and teens might need to seek ongoing support for some time depending on what kind of trauma they suffered. A personal support system made up of family and good friends can be extremely beneficial helping in recovery no matter what kind of case.

by Cody Degenhart

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Jul 272011
 

Defining Assertive

What does it mean to be assertive? By definition the word assertive means to affirm with confidence and assurance one’s position in defense or in order to move oneself forward boldly. This definition as listed in the dictionary explains a form of assertiveness that leans more towards aggressive, which does not accurately describe the meaning of what I want to explain as a true assertive response style. So, then, what is true or “pure” assertiveness and how can one develop it is the question. Now, for the answers…

The Four Styles

There are four styles of attitudes that result in how we communicate with other people. These are Aggressive, Passive, Passive-Aggressive, and Assertive. All four of these mind-sets are developed by the way in which we view or accept our own feelings in combination with how we view or accept other people’s feelings and behaviors towards us. In other words, how we deal with anger. A way to identify your own response style or the way in which others respond is by using one of these four simple formulas:

Aggressive = “I accept that I am angry,” but “I do not accept that you did something to anger me.”

Passive = “I do not accept that I am angry,” but “I accept that you did something to anger me.”

Passive-Aggressive = “I do not accept that I am angry,” and “I do not accept that you did something to anger me.”

Assertive = “I accept that I am angry,” and “I accept that you did something to anger me.”

The Assertive Type

The assertive response style as listed in the above description claims a dual-acceptance of self and others. This is the critical point of “pure” assertiveness. True assertive people accept or acknowledge anger within them, and all of the underlying hurt and/or fear that takes place along with it. In addition, an assertive person will honor another human being as having significance as well at the point of conflict, and will affirm their own position of defense not with hostility or disrespect, but with direction, care, and understanding of boundaries. This means that a person can in fact state their position without injuring or disrespecting others. Please note, the purpose of assertiveness is not to be a doormat, nor is it to be used to overpower another.

Primary Purpose

The primary purpose of being assertive is to state one’s needs with honor and validation of another human being’s needs without assimilation or rejection. In other words, sometimes we must “agree to disagree” and can remain honorable in the process without bullying or being bullied.

Examples

A colleague is given extra work that was, in effect, dumped on her by another colleague’s lack of responsibility in addressing this work. In response to this action, she addresses the colleague by informing her that she does not have time to add this work into her own workload, and then gives her the opportunity to engage in questions to gain helpful information. If this is not effective in getting her point across, she then informs their supervisor that she is being treated in an unfair manner without guilt or irrational fear.

A student is having difficulty understanding the material being taught to him in class due to another student’s disruptive behavior. He addresses the professor after class to ask for help in obtaining the information better through further explanation without any attempt at manipulation, while also stating his ground as being allowed to address the class as a whole without fear of intimidation or retribution.

Assertiveness Breeds Confidence

By and large, assertiveness is a developed process in which a person either becomes more vocal in responding to anger and/or less aggressive in getting their point across. An assertive person is open to solution-based suggestions and negotiations, and will validate another person without ever feeling “beaten,” and thus, has a high level of self-esteem and good communication skills in interpersonal relationships.

by Noel Neu

Noel Neu is a counselor in Wellington, where he specializes in providing assertive skills training.

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