By Michaiel Bovenes
Are you lucky in life? (Really, do you feel like you’re a
lucky person?) I don’t mean that you have a perfect life,
but do things just seem to always work out for you? Do
seemingly negative situations end up turning into something
better? Do great opportunities simply fall into your lap?
Do you meet (attract) the right people in your life? If so,
then you are truly a lucky person, if not, you can quickly
increase your good fortune.
I hadn’t thought much about luck until a few days ago, I
was at a coffee shop with a buddy of mine. Sitting deep in
an overstuffed blue chair, I listened to him talk about how
lucky my life is. I never really thought about it before,
but he was right. I put down my cinnamon scented coffee and
nested back into my chair, taking in and trying to digest
his compliments.
Later when I mentioned that I need to find a topic for my
newsletter this month, he immediately said, “Why don’t you
write about how to be a lucky person!” I chuckled to
myself, because I would have never thought about that in a
million years, but it intuitively felt so right. I knew
that the Universe had just winked at me with a confirmation.
He said, “goodbye”, gave me a hug and left his empty
ceramic cup still dripping with foam next to my chair. All
around me, the coffee shop conversations were mumbling in
my ears. I quietly sank deeper into my chair and started to
type. I must have been in a trance, because with only one
refill the article poured out of my Soul and onto my
laptop. I wrote the first draft in less than two hours.
Whether you believe you are lucky or not, most people think
that luck is not real or at best a random activity that
can’t be chosen or developed. You might think that people
stumble into good things by accident. How then do you
explain when a friend calls you at the last minute with
free tickets to a sold out show you’ve been dying to see?
Or when you turn around to quickly drive back home, because
you “forgot something” and a long lost friend is standing
at your door, but had no way to contact you except to stop
by and hope you’d be home. Is this coincidence or something
much more magical?
I believe becoming a lucky person is easy when you
understand the characteristics of these blessed people.
Imagine for a moment that luck isn’t random after all!
There is an attitudinal structure underlying every
fortunate human being. And anyone who is wiling to change
their mental-emotional habits can increase their good
fortune and become lucky. Years ago, I read an article
about some University research from England. The studied
showed what naturally lucky individuals have in common with
each other. They discovered a set of four qualities that
set them apart from the “unlucky”. The cool thing is that
people who developed these attitudinal qualities started to
increase their own good fortune very quickly!
Four Qualities of Lucky People
1. Lucky people are mindful and present. They pay attention
to the present moment and aren’t preoccupied thinking about
the past (disappointment) or fearing the future (worry).
They naturally choose to live in the present moment. This
allows them to notice and seize new opportunities, instead
of being distracted, confused or simply unaware.
2. They value their “intuition” as much as “logic and
reason”. They tend to look at both the “bigger picture” and
also the details of the “little picture” in their lives.
They’re open to an intuitive sense of possibilities (bigger
picture) and how it can fit into their current situation
(little picture). They are neither stuck in the details nor
dreaming about the future. Instead, they simultaneously
bring these two perceptions (awareness of the big and
little picture) the possibilities and on the one hand, the
actuality of their lives, on the other, together. This
offers them a way to set goals and make a plan that works.
3. Lucky people have a positive relationship with the
future. They are hopeful about the unknown (future) instead
of being fearful. Even though they don’t have all the
answers, they’re naturally optimistic and open. They refuse
to fantasize about what could go wrong and instead focus on
“what can go right”. They feel positive even when things
appear to be negative. Simply put. they don’t let
negativity get in the way of their plans and dreams.
4. They are self empowered and take responsibility. They
refuse to hang out in feelings of powerlessness, apathy or
self-pity. They don’t believe that life happens to them nor
are they a victim of circumstances. They know that what
they think and feel about themselves and the future
matters. They believe that opportunities are a direct
result of their attitude, thoughts, feelings and actions.
Simply put, they embrace their inner power and choose to
live their lives with responsibility.
The study also revealed that most lucky people had fairly
large social circles. They make friends easily and are
socially connected to their community. They’re naturally
outgoing because they really enjoy people and tend to be
non-judgmental. They get involved with their community.
They believe that people are inherently good, beautiful and
caring, which tends to make them popular individuals.
Four Secrets to Increase Your Luck and Good Fortune:
1) Embrace and accept yourself and your life, just the way
it is. The good, the bad, the beautiful and the ugly-accept
everything that is happening in your life, warts and all.
Stop fighting yourself and make a decision instead to
accept things the way they are instead of longing for it to
be different. Acceptance creates the space for change and
healing to occur. You’ll feel more comfortable when you
accept yourself and begin to naturally relax in social
situations. A quick method to do this is to choose to
believe that the world is a friendly place. It is here to
support you and your dreams. Unlucky people believe the
world is “out to get them.” Which world is true? Whatever
world you choose to believe in will be true for you! Both
worlds are possible but only one will become your reality.
Choose wisely.
2) Listen to your intuition and open your heart to feel
greater intimacy. There is much more happening around you
than you can ever grasp in your conscious mind. Your mind
filters out over 50% of the experiences happening to you
right now. However, beneath your conscious awareness your
subconscious is continuously picking up clues about your
future and the possibilities that are there. This is called
your intuition. When you blend intuition with intimacy, you
will experience a deeper connection with yourself and
others. You’ll know what decisions to make and why. You’ll
be more wise and understanding. Opening your heart will
improve your intuition and deepen your sense of purpose.
This naturally leads toward increasing your opportunities
for luck and expanding good fortune.
3 Avoid feeling sorry for your self. Admit the truth- you
are powerful. Embrace a resilient positive attitude about
your self and your life. You know this and have done it
before. Lemons can be made into lemonade when you change
your attitude. You can learn something about yourself from
the worst disaster. If you’ll begin looking for the silver
lining in the dark clouds of your life, your luck will
improve rapidly. What you focus on expands. So focus on
being powerful and seek the good in all situations.
4. Meditate regularly. If there is one activity I had to
choose that I believed cultivated good fortune and luck, it
would have to be meditation. Looking back on my life, I now
realize that learning to meditate as a teenager was a major
turning point in my life. It changed everything
dramatically. My good fortune accelerated once I learned to
relax and meditate on a regular basis. I fully believe that
meditation opens the door to a fortunate and lucky life.
In most studies, I’ve read on psychological well being,
those who meditate regularly (at least three times weekly)
are less nervous, anxious, depressed, and much less
irritable, controlling, or inhibited. They are, overall,
more sociable and self-confident, and felt positive about
themselves and the future. They tend to be emotionally
stable and self-reliant individuals, when compared to the
non-meditators in the study.
I hope you’ll re-read this article many times and let the
truth contained within it, sink deep into your subconscious
mind. This will help change your attitude and attract more
opportunities and greater good fortune in your life.
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